How to get out of a study rut (one lady's view)

28.2.13

Hi everyone,

So a few days ago I received an email from someone asking for study tips! I sent them a massively long rambling email back and since realised that maybe if I condensed it, it could make a good blog post haha. So here goes. It won't be for everyone but I hope at least some of you find it useful.

As a bit o' background, I have not always been a good student. In fact, I was a bad student for so long that no matter how well I'm doing today, I still feel like a slacker/liar/truant haha. I had to go back to school to get out of my rut, and even now I'm at university I go through bad patches every now and again. So here is how I try to stop myself sliding down that slope.


  1. Stay motivated
    Don't compete with your peers, compete with yourself. It'll distract you, give you a false sense of security and ultimately limit you! Try not to even think about what other people are doing. Some people find it helpful to work with others. I don't! If someone invites you to study together, go once or twice and see how it goes. If it doesn't help you or puts you in the wrong mindset, don't feel bad about not going. A good way to study with other people is to just... study physically together, but without discussing things or worrying if you're doing the same topic or whatever. That way you don't risk spending valuable time working in a way you don't find useful.

    Find someone who has already 'made it' (or a type of person / career) to look up to. Think about what you want to be doing in 2/5/10 years. Be super ambitious. Think about what kind of person you want to be in the long term and always have that goal on your mind. Put their picture on your bedroom wall so you can look at it every morning and remind yourself of why you need to work today. Sometimes, if I'm having a bad day, I like to Google that person and kind of remind myself of the bigger picture / remind myself of why I'm here! Never get caught up with the little things. Always keep your focus on that big goal.
  2. Be organised
    But don't let organisation distract you! Make sure you are always aware of your deadlines and commitments. I have a OneNote page I keep updated with seminars and essays, and any marks I get back. Anything where you can see everything at once is ideal. Try to keep track of how far along you are in whatever you're studying, how much more you have to do and when your exams are. Make sure that what you're studying is going to be useful in your exams, and that you know how you might end up using it. Your exams should always be at the back of your mind!
    If you miss lectures or don't entirely finish seminar reading, CATCH UP. Don't leave it! You want to minimise your exam time stress by making sure you've actually done all the reading / notes beforehand.
    Something I find useful when I have to write notes from a textbook is reading through the chapter first and underlining relevant information with a pencil, and then going back over it and turning the underlined sentences into notes. That way you're reading the text twice + you will have a better idea of what you actually need to make note of because you'll be more aware of the context.
  3. Avoid distraction
    If you don't need the internet, study in places with no wifi. If you do need the internet, try to get through at least 2 hours of solid work before allowing yourself to go on Facebook or whatever you want. Your breaks shouldn't really be any more than half an hour. If you have to study at home, avoid having too much snack food in the house. It will distract you. Don't work on the couch or your bed, work at your dining table or desk! If you have to tidy your room (I know it always makes me feel a lot better to study in my room when it's tidy), get through it as fast as you possibly can and don't do anything that isn't immediately necessary e.g. vacuuming.

    Don't obsess over making your notes pretty. They only need to be clear. Anything more than that is a distraction. If you feel yourself slipping, refer back to your goal and try to get some perspective. Remind yourself of why it's crucial that you keep working. Also, be aware that any fun thing you could do later will be a million times more satisfying if you know you've earned it!
Above all, just keep at it and don't give up. Don't tell yourself you can't do it so there's no use in trying. If you put in the hours, you will reap the rewards. No matter how intelligent you are, you will get nothing if you don't work for it (unless you are rich/have family connections that is :|) so start working now. DO NOT let your past failures define you. 

And now... outfit post.


Hat: vintage // Jacket: Sugarlips // Brooch: Topman // Shirt: Primark // Shorts: Forever 21 // Belt: vintage // Boots: Asos

Thanks to Sugarlips for this jacket! I'm not sure if it quite comes across in the photos but... it's shimmery! Hey! I like to think it adds a little extra to whatever I'm wearing, even if it's simple enough to go with pretty much anything. I'm a fan.

I also want to tell you guys about my friend Cecilie's new Etsy store LuneLuer!

She is Norwegian so, of course, she makes warm things. Hats, to be precise! I have personally witnessed her knitting these with love and care haha. So please take a look (:

Bye!


Quick outfit post

11.2.13

Hi!

So it's really late and I had to have something written by the end of tonight but all of a sudden it seems like a really good time to update my blog. It's funny how I am totally aware that this is major procrastination but I am continuing to type. And I will continue to type. Continuing. Yeah.

Just gonna talk about clothes n things a tiny bit and leave hoho.






I wear this outfit / variations on it alllll the time. So I figured it was time to take some pictures. The top is from Stylenanda, which I love.

I also have, just for the record, these boots that I need to sell.
I stupidly didn't look at the measurements so they're a couple of sizes too big and I missed the 5 day return period. Size 39! If you bought them from the website they would be $50/£31 plus $20 shipping. So... yeah!

But anyway. ANYWAY. 

The bag is from an Etsy seller called Yegane Dilek. I've actually had it for a little while now but I absolutely love it. To begin with I tried to put in my bag neatly but... whatever. Haha. Check out her shop because it's great.

The hat I also wear all the time. Possibly too often. Might be overusing it. But oh well. I actually got it in a set of four vintage hats for under £20! I forget the exact amount but still. It was a very good deal. Hats are always a good idea.

The man part...




It's a good outfit.

Bye!

Oh hey, TMI post.

30.1.13

So, my blogging has become less and less frequent, despite the millions of times I've said I'm going to make a real effort to post more. I guess it's felt like I've been so busy. And I have! I still don't quite understand how some bloggers seem to find the time to go to university and blog every week. But it's not the whole story. Part of it is having a lot to do, part of it is lack of organisation, part of it is lack of motivation, part of it is feeling like I never have anything interesting to tell you guys haha. And over the past few weeks I have been going through some pretty dark times.

I guess I'm learning some valuable lessons about myself, my life, my attitudes to other people, and my future (prepare yourself for this! haha). Here are three of them!

  1. Never, ever, lose sight of your dreams and who you really are. That sounds so cheesy but I am telling you now do not dismiss it. Because it is crucial. Not that you know me, but I do not really talk about this kind of thing... so yeah, I'm really being serious haha. Dismissing these things has been a genuinely huge mistake of mine. Never get too comfortable in any situation. Things change and you have to be prepared for that. Even if you aren't prepared for it, no matter what, you have to make sure that at the end of the day, YOU are there for you. YOU should be the most important thing in your life. If you are not, or you feel like you are putting other people first, you are leaving yourself totally vulnerable.
  2. The above applies to all of your relationships. I felt that I already 'knew' this in terms of people I didn't care about that much, but all the while I had completely taken for granted my relationships with people closer to me. I've spent the past few months trying to be someone I'm not, thinking I will have a better life and I will have better relationships. No! Mistake! It does not work! Never try to be anyone other than you. Never alter your personality for the sake of keeping someone around. Because any relationship produced from that is just not real. All that happens is that you come out of it realising that you never even knew each other. Just be 100% yourself, because if you have to suppress any part of your amazing self for someone, that person is probably not as amazing as you are haha
  3. Thinking you need to be different is really just down to you feeling dissatisfied with yourself in other ways. This is a problem I definitely have. If I feel bad about myself, I will sometimes try to make myself feel better in ways that do not do anything to address the actual problem e.g. seeking the approval of others, trying to maintain a relationship that you know is not ultimately what you want. But at the end of the day, you will never be happy unless you reach your own standards.

But anyway, above all, everything has just reminded me of how awesome I am. SO, I'm celebrating. On this blog. Even if it's not very good, even if I update like once a month, it's my creation. I'm fond of it. Yay!

If anyone wants to talk, email me. I'm in the mood for talking nowadays haha.

Here are some photos! 

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Sry this is very instagrammy. I cut my hair! I had actually been vaguely considering it for ages and it only ended up happening when I spontaneously decided to cut off my split ends and it ended up like this. Tears were shed. But then I realised it looked better with hats and I got over it. YEAH! Apparently 'long bobs' are trendy nowadays anyway... so maybe I just got cooler. 

We went to Leeds last weekend to stay with my Aunt and Uncle. They lived in a really beautiful area, I'm sad I didn't get more pictures! Anyway, it was just nice to see family and be in a real house in a real city.

Leeds has so many pretty shopping arcades. SO nice. They remind me of the QVB, only better looking haha.

They also have American Apparel hoho. Not sure why Newcastle doesn't have one but there you go.

We didn't just window shop though. We also went to the wonderful museum. I didn't take that many pictures haha, but when you're in a museum you just want to look around. We didn't get to go to the Art Gallery in the end but... I can at least tell you the building looks amazing.

Haha the children in the background. MY OUTFIT on one of the days. Jacket from Vivilli.com!

And finally, communal reading glasses in The Reliance. Nice idea.

So, anyway. I'm back at uni. Applying for work schemes and things. Trying to get things done. Going on a trip to Middlesborough next Saturday haha! No idea what that will be like, but still. Nice to get out of Durham. 

I hope you're all well. I've been terrible with replying to emails recently but actually I do really appreciate it haha, so feel free. I will endeavour to reply to everything. Another thing I have learned: be there for people. If you suspect someone is sad, spend time with them. They will appreciate it, even if they are not able to let you know at the time.

Bye!

The winner of the giveaway is...

20.12.12

NoĆ© of Couleur Spleen!

Congratulations (:

And thankyou so much to everyone who entered!

This post is going to be a bit of a Kate photodump haha. Just to update on my life, I can safely say I have been doing pretty much nothing since I last posted. Meaning, of course, that I have done nothing exciting, or worth posting about. A lot of work, essays, seminars, writing in general. Law stuff. You know, you know. That's not to say I haven't enjoyed the past month - I have. I think I enjoy life in two different ways. One is having fun, going places, dressing up, not 'thinking' about anything of import. But the other is when I feel like I'm really working, thinking, and being productive. It's not 'fun' and it doesn't look good in pictures, but it's fulfilling. So there you go. I am a really, really exciting person.

I was clearing out my computer the other day and found these pictures from May. SO long ago now actually... but pretty sure I look exactly the same now hoho. So I'm posting them before I delete them. Just reusing things I guess! As usual!




Blue dress... $4 from a secondhand store in Newtown, Sydney, which I've had for like five years and probably still wear once a week or so. Dress underneath - Heartbreaker Fashion, gift. Jacket n' shoes are vintage.

All other outfit-y things are from my phone.


 Sad I didn't get a proper photo of this! I was wearing a velvet dress, black and gold belt, fur collar, lion brooch and two gold necklaces. And a beehive. And dodgy eyeliner apparently? Haha. It was just to a uni formal, but was pretty much my only Christmas event so I decided to dress up!
These belts! You can't see them very well but I have two - a black one and a white one. I bought them together from Etsy last year for some ridiculously cheap price. One of me best purchases haha. They have big gold buckles with lions on them. Yes. Good.


Mulled wine at the Durham Christmas markets! I love mulled wine. Pretty sure my first wine mulling session this year was in November. It's just so wintry.


Also, Vivilli.com sent me this jacket! Which is great! I'll take a proper picture of this outfit at some point soon, but right now its too cold. Excuse the mirror. It's not my fault hoho. And my great big face.

So anyways, I'm in Durham for Christmas. Already visited my fam this summer and as it's a super expensive plane ticket and 23 hour journey away, once is enough. But it's okay! It'll be an experience. My sister and I are booked in for Christmas lunch, a tv on which to watch Carols at King's, and a small Christmas tree in the window, so we're set. Holding out for a non-white Christmas so I don't have to go through an ordeal similar to a few weeks ago when I had to crouch down and slide down my street on the soles of my shoes so as to get home unhurt.

Anyway, I can spend this break being productive! I have a lot of work to do, and I'm on day 5 of the 30 Day Shred! This is big news because I never exercise hoho. But I'm thinking it'll make life better to spend all day in cafes / the library getting work done but still know I'm moving around and not slowly morphing into a pale blob. Also, now that I've posted this on the internet, I have to actually finish it hoho.

Anyway, goodbye! And again, thanks for entering me giveaway. If I reach 1000 followers at some point in the near future I'll hold another one. Bye!

My first giveaway!

18.11.12

Hi!

I'm so excited to actually have a giveaway. It's so... blog-y, and as I'm terrible as blogging, this feels quite major to me hoho. So scroll down for the details and please enter!

Having a wonderful, very Sunday-ish Sunday. I woke up not too early, not too late, plodded off to Charlie's house, took some pictures, hung out, went grocery shopping, went to a cafe to work/consume a mince pie, then went home and had a nice night. It was good. Unfortunately, that familiar unease about impending deadlines has just begun to surface so soon sleep will be in order... but first, a post.

I haven't used a camera other than my iphone in so long. It's sad! I used to take photos all the time. The one thing is that my camera is getting 'Error 99' where I have to take out the battery / put it back in after every few photos. Why not get it fixed? It's not an emergency and I'm lazy hoho. So there you go. One day.

So I'm wearing this great dress from Motel. It actually has a high neck and a low back, but for some raisin I decided to wear it as a v neck dress. Idk. But it's pretty great. You can find it here!


I already took a photo of an outfit with this dress-shirt combo on instagram (@schwurlie), but I figured I should take my actual camera with me for once. So, goodness me, proper photos on my blog. There's something even more vain than usual about taking outfit pictures with an actual proper camera. But then, there is already something vain about having a blog.


So very mod. Except no. Because my shoes are totally not. But I guess I don't like taking pictures with my slightly dead loafer flat things, haha. Anyway. Here's Charlie looking warm.



Okay so...

I have a giveaway. At last. Brought to you by the very generous and lovely Sheinside!


Now, as I am not American, I do not celebrate Thanksgiving so it has crept up on me rather quickly without my knowledge. So let's treat this as a ... giveaway being begun to celebrate Thanksgiving. Not finishing on it. Yes? Yes. 

So this giveaway is for one of the eight sweaters pictured above! 

Any of them you like! I will pick the winner at random, email them, and they can make their selection (:

The conditions are as follows:
  • Follow my blog on Google Friend Connect
  • Register at sheinside.com
  • Comment here with your name and email address!
The winner will be announced on December 19!




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